Babies, Marriage, and a Cat

"Maybe some women aren't meant to be tamed. Maybe they just need to run free until they find someone just as wild to run with them."

I'm pretty sure i'm in that stage of life where everyone around you is either getting married or having babies. It's gotten to a point where weekly i'm seeing multiple announcements on my FB timeline. And while it appears that everyone seems to be checking off those points in their lives,well, i'm not. I'm just chillen with my cat. This is not a pity post because I don't feel feel sorry for myself. I've come to realize that i'm a late bloomer in these areas (again not that something is wrong with that). It wasn't until like 2 years ago that I finally realized and accepted that being a wife and mother are a part of my life desires and it wasn't until about 2 years ago that I realized and accepted that there is nothing wrong with having the desire for either. So it wasn't until about 2 years ago that I began dating with a purpose and began positioning myself in all capacities to open myself and my life to someone else. Surprisingly because up until 2 years ago I was pretty certain I would be traveling the world and enjoying great love affairs along the way.

Now....

I want to travel the world with one great love creating memories along the way. Call me a hopeful romantic, but i'm pretty sure it's possible even if it means I just have to wait a little while longer with no babies, marriage and just a cat. When I worked in international development, particularly in some not so sexy places, I was pretty certain that I would NEVER be able to find someone to a) join the journey/be open to the adventure b) be supportive of that type of lifestyle and or be willing to withstand bouts of time a part. And although that little urge inside of me to travel to some of those unsexy locales still appears, i'm more open to compromise haha But even more than just compromise, I have learned that whomever I choose to be with , will have goals and interests aligned to mine and therefore would be understanding of this lifestyle. 

As for dating, well, it can be a time drain and exhausting. I'm probably less intentional about putting myself in places to meet someone and instead have taken the "they will find me when its time" approach. The idea of another bout of online dating makes me want to gag (I won't say it's all horrible...but the chances of finding someone who is truly what they present is very low) and I have never quite been the girl who plans their life/activities around the places where I can potentially meet my future husband. So all I can really do is be patient, hope for the best, but continue my adventure until there is a co-pilot for this ride.