So i've been scratching my head on what I should write. I asked a couple friends and although I didn't receive many responses, one friend told me to " write whatever is in your heart." Now for me, whatever is in my heart, tends to be on my mind as well. I've been thinking a lot about the whole dating thing, why I am still single, where will I be employed next, what makes me happy, what is my purpose and how i'm going to change the world. So seeing as all this is going on upstairs and in there, I figured I would write about all of them. Whatever comes to my mind as a message from the heart and hopefully, a level of clarity is reached when i'm done. So, hope you're ready because here it goes.
Dating.
Now this is new to me. I'm a serial relationship type person. One relationship to another but after being out of a relationship for close to year, I have become quite comfortable in my role as dater. I have also come to realize that dating is essential in figuring out if someone is worth being in a relationship with you. My rule when it comes to dating have become rather defined over time. Intimacy is something that happens at the right time and shouldn't be rushed into. Dates at this point of the game are a dual arrangement therefore both parties should be prepared to carry their own weight ( i.e initiating conversation, outings, and payment of outing). Although I have always been quick to divulge too much of myself, my story, I think its good to ease into it and ease into letting a person know what makes you unique. Most importantly, dating is meant to be fun. If both people are clear in their intentions then it leaves a whole lot of space for fun. Have a good time and worry about the rest when it presents itself.
Now for women, we often times go into competition mode when we know that the person we are interested in is still dating others. A) you're not together so chill out. B) If you think highly of yourself you realize that there is no competition. We all have gifts to give to this world and we all bring are own unique self to those we interact with, if you're dating why limit yourself to just one, particulary if the person you're interested is not. Dating is like picking fruit, you pick up a few (or several) check them out, realize its not what you want, put it down, do the same thing over until you find the one you do want. A man that is dating others should not be a threat to you, if you know you have a lot to offer someone and just as much as he is determining whether you're what he wants, you should be doing the same. Do not wait to get picked, go out and do the picking!
Why am I still single?
Easy, God has an amazing man that will be presented (or has/is) to me when I am ready to receive them in that way. I have things to work on for myself, my career, my personal development goals, and my plot to take over the world so in the meantime, i'll take my time to develop myself to be the woman I want to be and be patient for that moment to come, enjoying the road along the way.
Future employment
I'm well aware of the holes in my experience. Project management, grant management, teaching (in a traditional classroom). I'm confused as to which direction I should take in filling these holes, but i'm open to any new learning experience that may come about. I have a lot of faith that where I will end up is where I am supposed to be and I have faith that if it doesn't work out where I end up another door will be opened. For now, i'm seeking employment in any of the fields that will plug up the holes that I have. I have to remind myself that at 26, I have extensive experience and I know by 30 I'll be on fire...watchout!
What makes me happy?
Orange roses. Random acts of kindness. Positive energy. Smiles. Family. Friends. Freedom. Faith. Love. Hope. Health. Sharing. Compassion. Passion. Laughter. Pineapples. Animals. Traveling. My Curly Hair. Friendly People.Random conversations with strangers. Life. My Life.
My purpose and how i'm going to change the world
These two should be in a blog of their own. I know that I was blessed with the heart that I have to do something to bring love, peace, and happiness to others. In what capacity I am not sure, but I do my best in my day to day interactions to bring that to those I interact with. I know i'm going to change the world even if its just the one I live in.
Dating.
Now this is new to me. I'm a serial relationship type person. One relationship to another but after being out of a relationship for close to year, I have become quite comfortable in my role as dater. I have also come to realize that dating is essential in figuring out if someone is worth being in a relationship with you. My rule when it comes to dating have become rather defined over time. Intimacy is something that happens at the right time and shouldn't be rushed into. Dates at this point of the game are a dual arrangement therefore both parties should be prepared to carry their own weight ( i.e initiating conversation, outings, and payment of outing). Although I have always been quick to divulge too much of myself, my story, I think its good to ease into it and ease into letting a person know what makes you unique. Most importantly, dating is meant to be fun. If both people are clear in their intentions then it leaves a whole lot of space for fun. Have a good time and worry about the rest when it presents itself.
Now for women, we often times go into competition mode when we know that the person we are interested in is still dating others. A) you're not together so chill out. B) If you think highly of yourself you realize that there is no competition. We all have gifts to give to this world and we all bring are own unique self to those we interact with, if you're dating why limit yourself to just one, particulary if the person you're interested is not. Dating is like picking fruit, you pick up a few (or several) check them out, realize its not what you want, put it down, do the same thing over until you find the one you do want. A man that is dating others should not be a threat to you, if you know you have a lot to offer someone and just as much as he is determining whether you're what he wants, you should be doing the same. Do not wait to get picked, go out and do the picking!
Why am I still single?
Easy, God has an amazing man that will be presented (or has/is) to me when I am ready to receive them in that way. I have things to work on for myself, my career, my personal development goals, and my plot to take over the world so in the meantime, i'll take my time to develop myself to be the woman I want to be and be patient for that moment to come, enjoying the road along the way.
Future employment
I'm well aware of the holes in my experience. Project management, grant management, teaching (in a traditional classroom). I'm confused as to which direction I should take in filling these holes, but i'm open to any new learning experience that may come about. I have a lot of faith that where I will end up is where I am supposed to be and I have faith that if it doesn't work out where I end up another door will be opened. For now, i'm seeking employment in any of the fields that will plug up the holes that I have. I have to remind myself that at 26, I have extensive experience and I know by 30 I'll be on fire...watchout!
What makes me happy?
Orange roses. Random acts of kindness. Positive energy. Smiles. Family. Friends. Freedom. Faith. Love. Hope. Health. Sharing. Compassion. Passion. Laughter. Pineapples. Animals. Traveling. My Curly Hair. Friendly People.Random conversations with strangers. Life. My Life.
My purpose and how i'm going to change the world
These two should be in a blog of their own. I know that I was blessed with the heart that I have to do something to bring love, peace, and happiness to others. In what capacity I am not sure, but I do my best in my day to day interactions to bring that to those I interact with. I know i'm going to change the world even if its just the one I live in.
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